blood, Breast, cancer, caregiver, lumpectomy, mastectomy, skin, sparing, surgery
“My life seems so simple yet so complex”
Going into the weekend, life seemed normal post-surgery. We had just had a meeting with the plastic surgeon, we were ahead of sechedul and there seemed to be no complications. Saturday morning we awoke to a “bloody mess”. Blood in the sheets and her drains seemed to be emitting so much more fluid. “Perhaps we knicked a blood vessel yesterday!”, no big deal was what we were told. Bandages had to be replaced by me and it was still leaking so we went in to the hospital get this fixed. All this on kid’s soccer morning! Stress 101!
Well the doctor was on call and she patched us up. A small hematoma had been looking for a place to drain and found it’s spot. Yechhhh! Well I guess things could have been worse, but at least we were now patched up and could live our SIMPLE but cancer-affected life the rest of the weekend. Our kids? They just thought it was one of the many follow-up appointments and it seemed to roll right off their backs. Soccer Saturday stress was averted.
THE DRAINS! They seemed to be our focus right now. Cancer has a way of doing that to you. At first it’s dealing with the diagnosis, then it is the waiting, then it is the surgery, now its the discomfort of the drains. There are tons of other things going on in her life and you have to find ways to take her attention off those uncomfortable subject matters. For me this has been the most difficult one. It is just difficult visually to look at. “My life seems so simple, yet so complex. I take pills, I empty these lousy drains and I rest. The rest of it just revolves around me. Chemotherapy is sounding like a nice change of pace.” Comments like that from her help me understand what she is going through. She’s in pain. she’s hurting, and she’s bored. I really understand what she feels and it’s killing me to see her go through this. Yes, this linear life has changed her. It’s focused her. It’s focused us.
The new goal for now: Get these darned drains taken out! Did we say goals? We need to go back to the old posting about our goals and change them here. We just never envisioned these drains being so painful. Still emitting around 35ccs per side, so we are almost down to the magical 30ccs.